What Doesn’t Kill You
They say, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. PTSD and C-PTSD do sustain damage overtime though, and for that there is therapy, family, friends, faith, and time. The thing about life is that nobody gets out of this alive.
That does not mean we don’t have a moral obligation to live the best life possible, and strive for meaning and prosperity – especially in times where the name of the game is to survive.
Even in encountering my own capacity to not keep up with this blog, business, and a lot of other things in life is a testament to how possible it is for me to fail. But in failing, I learn. And in learning, I grow. And that is the ethos of Congruent Academy. I am a person in process just like you.
So, in returning to Congruent Academy, I am taking in some of the things that I have learned through my hiatus that will propel me forward rather than hold me back. Here are some of the values that I am orienting myself towards.
- Dedication: I know that perseverance triumphs over lack of experience in the long run. To keep this site running and to keep myself running, I need to be dedicated to the greater why
- Lower the bar to sustain momentum: I know that I fall off when the goals I set are simply too high for where my level of competency is. Rather than view that pattern solely as a defect of character, I am now reframing that as an opportunity to self assess and see if the way I am approaching a goal is sustainable.
To make sustainable progress can be difficult, especially if there is no cohort to hold one another accountable. I have made attempts to measure success across a wide range of goals all at once – but that did not stick. It could not stick, because I was approaching them in an unrealistic way and getting perpetually overwhelmed. That’s a bad strategy.
Instead of trying to track everything, now I’m working on tracking just one thing at a time. It will not be long before I build the momentum, but even if it is – I need to be patient. Be patient with the pain, allow yourself to heal and move forward, and never give up.